Be Proud of Your Uniqueness and Love Your Identity
Having
a role model in Life, worshipping his/her virtues and persistently strive to
win the similar achievements is not wrong but nurturing an obsession to live
the life of your ideals and role models by emulating them in every aspect of
their life and individuality is worthless and demeans your self-worth. Getting
over-influenced by any of your ideals or role models will be debilitating for
your personality and eventually you will lose your identity. We all know that among
the 7.9 billion of the world’s population, none is similar to any, neither the
finger prints nor their faces or voice, nothing is similar. Even identical twins
are not identical in every aspect; they possess different personality traits,
attitudes, skills and passions. Humans are endowed with wide and beautiful
diversity yet people try to blindly follow and imitate their role models.
Pursuing your passion to achieve success in their field is always inspiring but
copying their walk, talk, dressing style or looks will cost you your unique
identity which is the most precious gift God has given to you. So learn to be
proud of your identity and to love your uniqueness.
Once
a teacher asked his pupils, “Children, what would you like to become when you
grow up? The answers were varied, a few took names of their favorite celebrities,
and others chose their favorite sports persons, scientists and political
leaders. They were amused to share that becoming like them and living life like
them was their sole aim and future dream. Suddenly the teacher noticed a boy
who remained quiet throughout the discussion. Surprised, he went to him and
asked, “Henry, you haven’t shared, what would you like to become in
future?” The innocent child replied
without mincing his words, about his dream, “Sir, I just want to become Henry
David Thoreau.” And the child was none other than the acclaimed American
Naturalist, Essayist, poet and philosopher Henry David Thoreau.
Though
the answer was unexpected but it left everyone around him stunned and clueless.
Henry explained in just one single sentence what it meant to accept and admire one’s own very
existence. When you love your identity you transcend the world and believe in
your completeness.
You
are a combination of unique traits, different values and the most amazing
features of your own then why to cloak yourself in someone else’s life and
personality, why we harbour greed to become somebody else and live their life
and lose the profundity of our valued existence. Over-indulgence in your role
model’s life and yearning to get into their skin will knock you down and destroy
your self esteem. Such tendency results in the attitude of hollowness that
gradually impoverishes you and ebbs away all your strengths and positivity.
Be
ambitious, know your strengths and Learn From Your Mistakes to keep growing in life. Not just the outside world,
identify the world within you also. You have a beautiful world inside; the
world of your thoughts, your faith in your existence, the light from within,
the strength of your intellect and the beauty of your emotions. This world is
invisible but its power is palpable that keeps you awake and reminds you
continuously- you have come to this life with a purpose, go ahead and fulfill
that.
Start Writing Your Gratitude Journal
To
stay happy within and be proud of you, have a habit of writing a gratitude
journal. Mention everything in your diary that makes you happy and express your
gratefulness to those small things of joy around you. If you wish to extend
your gratitude to some special people in your life without letting them know,
you can write that in your journal. This journal will make you feel very
special about yourself and you will be proud of having such amazing sources of
joy in your life. Human birth a priceless jewel, a rare blessing and the precious moments of life shouldn't be frittered away in emulating others' life. Your life is not meant to follow others obsessively and drift along aimlessly over admiring others. You have the power within to make people following you, just awaken that unique power that is blazing in you.
Equanimity in both Pain and Pleasure
We
often resist or resent the normal flow of life because we fail to understand
that happiness is just an occasional episode in this delightful drama of life.
We stay indulged in the conundrums of good and bad, winning and losing
dilemmas. Ergo, we miss to experience the palpable vibrancy and vivaciousness in
our lives. This approach trivializes the aim of our life and the essential
exuberance inherent in us. So, build a Happy Life on the firm foundation of your own
values, virtues and Life Skills. When you become a freaky fan of your ideal you start nurturing grandiose indulgences and imitating that person makes you a slave of their ideas, styles and way of living.
Be
the change that you want to see in the world. What you dream and expect for
yourself, give it to others as well. It makes you dissipate love and positivity, you
will get the same in return but if you spread anger and hatred you will receive
the same.
Be
proud of yourself, identify the elixir, you are bestowed upon with and radiate
from within!
